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Family constellations require only brief information about the family, just the facts concerning life and death, guilt and grief, and the exclusion of anyone belonging to it.
It is good to get information as far down the family tree as possible. It will enhance the work and will allow for greater completion. 

It can be quite helpful to know about some facts in the lives of the great-grandparents and their families.
All these facts, or even family myths, provide guidelines for the orientation in the structure of the family. They show the wounds and the paths for healing.

So, before you do a constellation for your own family, find as much information about your family tree as you can.
Doing it, cultivate the attitude of respect for everyone you come accross.

If you are interested in family trees, you can draw charts , including the facts. 
Wherever you have the information, you may

List major events, particularly traumatic ones, 
the year they occurred, 
and the ages of the people concerned at the time. 

People are making amazing family discoveries through the internet now.

Are you a member of a persecuted ( now or in the past) group, for ethnic, racial, religious, national reasons -  or of a persecuting (now or in the past) group?

Were there any complications during your birth?
Was your mother in some way severely affected by it, or by the birth of another child?
How many siblings do you have (including half-siblings and step-siblings)?
In which order were you all born, and in which years?
Did any of your siblings die young?
Were there any stillbirths or miscarriages? 

Was anyone in your family (perhaps) abused, sexually or otherwise?
Did someone get very close to death, but made it?
Was someone separated from a parent/ family members, especially while still quite young?

Do any of your siblings have a particular affliction of fate*? (see below)

Answer the following questions about your parents, and where possible, about grandparents and great- grandparents

Mother and father:
Year of birth
Country of birth/ emigration/ immigration
How did they get to know each other?
How old was your mother/father then?
Did they get married? If not, why not? Did they stay together?
Did either of them have significant earlier relationships? This may mean someone they were married to before, or had a child to (this counts as a marriage), someone they loved very much, or someone they were engaged to. 
What happened to these earlier relationships?
Did a parent marry again? Did a parent have more children to someone else?
Did a parent die young? When and how?
Did a grandparent die early?

Siblings in order of birth, birthplace of mother/father.
Siblings that died young, stillbirths, and miscarriages.

Were there any events in the family ,such as the following afflictions of fate?
Here are examples of a particular fate that may affect the family soul:
Death after childbirth
Loss of parents while young 
Loss of siblings, loss of children
Severe accident
Severe illness
Time in prison
Time in psychiatric wards
Extramarital birth
Exclusion from the family
Loss of material existence
Severe disagreement about inheritance
Victim/ or perpetrator of crime
Soldier in wartime
Prisoner of war
Victim or perpetrator of/ or participant in genocide
Colonial matters
In the Australian context, it may be important to look at your family history 
in terms of relationships between indigenous and non-indigenous people:
especially if you or your non indigenous ancestors live(d) in the country:
Are you the first non aboriginal people who settled on the land? 
Are you connected/related to the first non aboriginal settlers of this or some other piece of land? What do you know about the relationship between the indigenous and non indigenous people in this connection? What happened to the aboriginal people?
How do you/ your family relate to the indigenous people, directly concerning the land you live on- even if you don't own it.

Did someone in the family benefit from another person's loss?
Did someone benefit at the expense of others, as through a will, or in a business or enterprise of some kind?
Were there people who were refugees, expelled from their country, or deported?
Emigration/ immigration
Parents with different nationalities, ethnic groups, or religions.

Make an effort not to miss anybody who belongs to your family. It helps to be a little scientific, as if you were trying to put your family tree together. 
The family soul insists on full membership for all who belong. 
For example, parents' half siblings are sometimes forgotten, or so called black sheep, or someone about whom the family felt uncomfortable, or a child that died very young.

There may be family members that are not spoken about. Can you find out what happened?

There may be family members that did not get on at all. What happened?

Sometimes in a constellation it becomes apparent that more information is needed. 
It could be about events in a family, about a specific family member, or it is like a search for a person who is somehow missing.