So, before you do a constellation for your own family,
find as much information about your family tree as you can.
Doing it, cultivate the attitude of
respect for everyone you come accross.
If you are interested in family
trees, you can draw charts , including the facts.
Wherever you have the information, you may
List major events, particularly
the year they occurred,
and the ages of the people
concerned at the time.
People are making amazing
family discoveries through the internet now.
Are you a member of a persecuted ( now or in
the past) group, for ethnic, racial, religious, national reasons -
or of a persecuting (now or in the past) group?
Were there any complications during your birth?
Was your mother in some way severely affected by it, or by the birth of another
How many siblings do you have (including half-siblings and step-siblings)?
In which order were you all born, and in which years?
Did any of your siblings die young?
Were there any stillbirths or miscarriages?
Was anyone in your family (perhaps) abused, sexually or otherwise?
Did someone get very close to death, but made it?
Was someone separated from a parent/ family members, especially while still
Do any of your siblings have a particular affliction of fate*? (see below)
Answer the following questions about your parents, and where possible, about
grandparents and great- grandparents
Mother and father:
Year of birth
Country of birth/ emigration/ immigration
How did they get to know each other?
How old was your mother/father then?
Did they get married? If not, why not? Did they stay together?
Did either of them have significant earlier relationships? This may mean someone
they were married to before, or had a
child to (this counts as a marriage), someone they loved very much, or someone they
were engaged to.
What happened to these earlier relationships?
Did a parent marry again? Did a parent have more children to someone else?
Did a parent die young? When and how?
Did a grandparent die early?
Siblings in order of birth, birthplace of mother/father.
Siblings that died young, stillbirths, and miscarriages.
Were there any events in the family ,such as the following afflictions of
Here are examples of a particular fate that may affect the family soul:
Death after childbirth
Loss of parents while young
Loss of siblings, loss of children
Time in prison
Time in psychiatric wards
Exclusion from the family
Loss of material existence
Severe disagreement about inheritance
Victim/ or perpetrator of crime
Soldier in wartime
Prisoner of war
Victim or perpetrator of/ or participant in genocide
In the Australian context, it may be
important to look at your family history
in terms of relationships
between indigenous and non-indigenous people:
especially if you or your non indigenous ancestors live(d) in the
Are you the first non aboriginal people who settled on the land?
Are you connected/related to the first non aboriginal settlers of this or
some other piece of land? What do you know about the relationship between
the indigenous and non indigenous people in this connection? What happened
to the aboriginal people?
How do you/ your family relate to the indigenous people, directly
concerning the land you live on- even if you don't own it.
Did someone in the family benefit from another person's loss?
Did someone benefit at the expense of others, as through a will, or in a
business or enterprise of some kind?
Were there people who were refugees, expelled from their country, or deported?
Parents with different nationalities, ethnic groups, or religions.
Make an effort not to miss anybody who belongs to your family. It helps to be a
little scientific, as if you were trying to put your family tree together.
The family soul
insists on full membership for all who belong.
For example, parents' half siblings
are sometimes forgotten, or so called black sheep, or someone about whom the family felt uncomfortable, or
a child that died very young.
There may be family members that
are not spoken about. Can you find out what happened?
may be family members that did not get on at all. What happened?
Sometimes in a constellation it becomes apparent that more information is needed.
It could be about events in a family, about a specific family member, or it is like a search for a
person who is somehow missing.